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Searching for awe and context. Drawn to the story of food across space and time. Spreading light. Sister, daughter, wife, human.

Passage from “Hope for Cynics” by Jamil Zaki. It reads, “These moral purity tests limit diversity of thought within social movements, freeze out potential allies, and feed what Ross calls "the cannibalistic maw of cancel culture." And like other forms of cynicism, callouts deny people the capacity to change. In Ross's eyes, these fixed views "mirror the prison industrial complex" that most activists abhor. Ross offers an alternative, "calling in," which she describes as "calling out with love." Calling in names the harm someone does and their capacity to grow. Ross used this strategy with Prisoners Against Rape, and in later work deprograming Ku Klux Klan members. "When you ask someone to give up hate," she reasons, " you need to be there for them when they do." Ross relates the story of a personal call-in from which others might learn. A relative of hers would often share bigoted opinions about Mexican and IGBT people. One night at dinner she replied to one of his rants, saying, "I know you're a good man. I think you would run into a burning building and rescue somebody if you could and you wouldn't care whether they were gay, straight, Mexican, white. How can I reconcile the good man that I know you are with the words that just came out of your mouth?" Calling out whittles down social movements; calling in broadens them, creating space for more people to join in. It draws from restorative justice, a practice for moving forward after harm, which also inspired Lajuan Whites approach at Syracuse's Lincoln Middle School. Now a professor at Smith College, Ross teaches classes on calling in to new generations of activists. She's clear that no one is obliged to engage in "nonproductive conversations" with provocateurs or trolls, or to put themselves at risk in the service of dia-logue. But her new version of social change is fueled by hopeful skepticism, and belief in the goodness of most people.”