Connie Winch

@conniewinch.bsky.social

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Mission: Loving from the inside out Both single & an #UnweddedWidow Adult child of IFBs/Mostly-agnostic humanist Adult-diagnosed ADHD, cPTSD, chronic fatigue Minneapolis (area) native/Columbus, OH resident Passionate about social justice conniewinch.com

Before we meet the right partner, we often have to go through a journey to gather the wisdom, maturity, and nervous system capacity needed to make a conscious relationship work. This journey is a form of divine preparation. The universe will never give you something you are not ready for.

A passage from the Glimmers Journal by Deb Dana that reads, "it is when we feel as though we are trapped and can't escape danger that the dorsal vagal pathway pulls us all the way back to our evolutionary beginnings. In this state, we are immobilized. We shut down to survive. From here, it is a long way back to feeling safe and social and a painful path to follow."

Photo of my tablet showing a frame of NYPD Blue season 9 episode 19, in which a young woman, played by Gabrielle Carteris, lies in a hospital bed. She's been raped. Her face has cuts and abrasions on it.

Kirk Acevedo as Scott Grafton, a cop under suspicion, in an episode of NYPDBlue.

A picture of my TV, playing an episode of NYPD Blue. Pictured on the left, facing away from the camera, is Dennis Franz, who played Detective Andy Sipowicz, and facing the camera, Kirk Acevedo, who in this episode played a cop named Scott Grafton. His character is telling the detective where he was when the murder happened.

A picture of my TV, playing the video of the Obama Presidential Center opening ceremony. Pictured L to R are Sasha, Maliah, Michelle, and @BarackObama. Sasha and Michelle are looking at each other. Maliah, who has her hand over her heart, and Michelle appear to be singing along. And Barack is smiling while he observes his family's joy.

A photo of my TV, playing the video from the official opening of the Obama Presidential Center. Pictured are Michelle (left) and @BarackObama. They are facing to their right. President Obama has his eyes closed.

A prescription pill bottle sits on a purple background. The visible portion of the bottle's label shows my name and the instructions for taking the drug. I crossed out the name of the drug.

White text on a red background:

"In an interview with NPR, Evangelical Christian leader Russell Moore said that multiple pastors had told him disturbing stories about their congregants being upset when they read from the 'Sermon on the Mount' in which Jesus espoused the principles of forgiveness and mercy that are central to Christian doctrine.

"'Multiple pastors tell me, essentially, the same story about quoting Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount - [and] to have someone come up after to say, "Where did you get those liberal talking points?"'

"'Moore added: 'And what was alarming to me is that, in most of these scenarios, when the pastor would say, "I'm literally quoting Jesus Christ," the response would be, "Yes, but that doesn't work anymore. That's weak."'"

A screenshot of two posts in a row on my timeline. Each is a photo of a rainbow.

Screenshot of a Facebook post by a page called Not Me Us, which itself is a screenshot of a tweet by Brian Wetjen @wetchman. He says:

"Today, in Target's parking lot:

"GUY: Sign this petition for Voter ID?

"ME: Do I have to show ID to sign it?

"GUY: No.

"ME: So how do you know I'm a voter?

"GUY: We verify name, address, and sig via the voter registry.

"ME: You have just explained why Voter ID is not necessary."

A screenshot of an Instagram post by me (@tigerlily7a), which shows a photo of a plate of lamb meat and a few pieces of potato on a bed of rice, with the following caption: "Before going to Rise Up and Sing Together 🎶 with @indivcentraloh (at which I did not think to take a picture), Lauren and I tried @yemeni_restaurant_columbus_oh for the first time. And man, that was the tastiest and certainly the tenderest lamb I've ever had. SO GOOD. 😋 If you're in Central Ohio, I highly recommend."

A passage from the book Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD by Dr. Tamara Rosier: "I frequently speak to various groups about how ADHD affects individuals. On one such evening, I was talking to a large group of parents on the topic of raising emotionally healthy children who have ADHD. During the session, I highlighted the importance of empowering their children to problem-solve. I explained how easily people with feel shame and inadequacy. Afterward, some of the parents formed a line to ask additional questions, and I helped the participants develop the next steps in their parenting. A well-meaning non-ADHD parent came up to me at the podium and said, 'I will take your glass. I know you will forget to do it,' then winked and laughed at her own joke. I must have looked shocked because she stopped and said, 'Oh, did you need this glass?' Her words had felt like a slap to my face. She had assumed I would forget and made a punchline out of my struggles, landing the all-too-familiar jab, 'I will do this for you because you are too careless/stupid/unreliable to do it.' I had already made allowances for my forgetfulness by placing the remote control I was using next to the glass so I wouldn't leave it behind."

Screenshot of a post with the following text:

"I was at DragonCon one year when Avery Brooks was on a panel, and a Black dude stood up and talked about how the year DS9 came on, he became the sole custodial guardian of his small son, and he was "terrified" and felt helpless, because he hadn't really had a father himself, and he didn't really know any Black fathers he particularly wanted to emulate, and no Black single fathers at all. He talked about how every week he'd put his kid to bed and sit down and watch Deep Space Nine, and think to himself, "Okay, this, I want us to be this kind of father and son," and how, silly as it might sound, the idea that Ben could be there for Jake, all the time, successfully, and earn his admiration and trust, was the only source he really had of inspiration, the only voice that was telling him he could handle this job.

"I swear to fuck there was a whole auditorium of people in tears by the time he was done, including both him and Brooks. It was one of the most beautiful moments I ever saw about the sometimes bloodless-sounding term "representation," and about fandom in general, and I will never forget it."

Screenshot of a Facebook post by me. It says, "For about a week I've been working on this playlist. Full description: "Songs about/mentioning MSP or MN, songs about resisting/abolishing ICE, songs memorializing lives already lost, songs about being/caring for immigrants/neighbors, songs about social justice, songs about kindness, songs about our common humanity." It has a wide variety of musical styles; the unifying thread is lyrical content. If you're interested...enjoy: [link]."

A screenshot from The Nation magazine summarizing a story thusly: "The editors of The Nation magazine are in the process of formally nominating the city of Minneapolis and its people for the 2026 Nobel Peace Prize. The following nomination statement, which is addressed to the Norwegian Nobel Committee, the five-member body that is charged by the Parliament of Norway with selecting the recipient of the Peace Prize, has been prepared for submission on Friday." On the screenshot, I highlighted the words "and its people."

Photo of my tablet, with The Late Show with Stephen Colbert paused. On the left is the guest, Jacob Soboroff, who is facing and talking to Steephen Colbert.

Screenshot of a Facebook post by me. It says, "I'm making a playlist called MINNEAPOLIS | FUCK ICE. Songs for MSP, songs about MSP, songs about being or caring for neighbors/immigrants, songs about standing up for goodness and decency, songs about social justice, aongs about kindness. I have a bunch in mind already, but comment your ideas! (And yes, of course: #StreetsOfMinneapolis is first on the list.) #MSP #MyHometeon #FUCKICE" Below the text is the artwork Bruce Springsteen used for his song Streets of Minneapolis.

Screenshot of a tweet by Congresswoman Ilhan Omar, posted 1/27/2019, in which she quotes 2 stanzas of Maya Angelou's poem Still I Rise:

"You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still like dust, I'll rise.

"Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

"#mayaangelou
📸@politico"

Below the poem is a near-full-length portrait of the Congresswoman. She is wearing a white turban, a white blouse with a gray jacket over it, and cobalt blue pants.

A screenshot of creaturesofresistance.com. Under the Heading "Creatues of Resistance," there's small text that says, "We Stand United - Artist Designed." Below that, in regular size text, is the following paragraph: "Welcome to Creatures of Resistance, a collection of artist-designed state bird emblems symbolizing unity and resilience. Each emblem represents the spirit of resistance and solidarity, encouraging us to flock together in the face of challenges. Explore our gallery and find the perfect emblem that resonates with your state pride and commitment to standing united." And below that in my screenshot are the spots (for graphics not posted yet) or the graphics for each of the first 9nstates, alphabetically speaking.

Screenshot of a FB post by me. It's a repost of one by a local (Columbus, OH, area) group called Westerville Progressive Alliance, in which they shared a Minnesota rapid response group's request for people to display a lit candle in their window tonight to show solidarity.

I added the following caption: "It's ~7:15 ET right now, so this starts at the top of the next hour.

"I don't have any candles handy, so I'll prop my tablet in the window, with this YT video playing. It shows 3 canldes—one each for Renee, Liam, and Alex. (Yes, I'm aware there are more victims.) It runs for 10 hours. Just thought I'd share this idea for anyone else who could use it. 💜 There are lots of other candle burning videos on YT too. https://youtu.be/tcQQbd_vIfc?si=_XE_liqXFrUP6In4"

From the Instagram stories of Jeni Britton, a photo of a poster that says:
Mass Meeting & March
Columbus
Solidarity with the Minnesota shutdown
ICE
OUT
of everywhere!
Fri. Jan 23
4PM 1004 Parsons Ave

Screenshot of a Google images search result. The image is of an ICE agent mid-fall, as he has just slipped on literally ice on a Minneapolis street. On the right is a man photographing him from the other directikn.

Screenshot of a Columbus Monthly article called "Jeni's and the President: Why Joe Biden Likes Ice Cream So Much." The accompanying photo shows Joe Biden standing in front of an ice cream counter and eating an ice cream cone. Behind the counter is Jeni Britton, proprietor of Jeni's Splendid Ice Creams.

Screenshot of an Instagram video by @jolly_good_ginger. He's on a street in St. Paul, Minnesota, watching high schoolers, some of whom are carrying signs, as they march toward the Capitol building. They are protesting ICE's presence and actions in Minnesota. Over the video, @jolly_good_ginger has added a red box with the text, "HAPPENING NOW: WALKOUTS IN ST PAUL, MINNESOTA."

A screenshot of a graphic phosted on Favebook by Ashley Fairbanks. The graphic reads, "Not in MN? Minnesotans need your help as they defend their communities from ICE. Go to StandWithMinnesota.com find a cause, and give what you can. STAND WITH MINNESOTA."

A Facebook post I made showing the dashboard screen of a car I'd rented in Minnesota in December. It displayed the current temp, 22°F. And the main part of the screen says, "Alarm: Low Outside Temperature." My post caption says "Bahaha!...#UnnecessaryWarningsForMinnesotans."

A interior shot of the (former, I believe) mansion of Minneapolis-based pianist Lorie Line. It features a grand piano on a raised platform, with white columns surrounding it.

I'm on the left, and a friend is on the right; we're at her house, standing in her living room. I've blurred her face because I don't know if she wants me posting pics of her. She's wearing a gray shirt and a black "Birthday" sash and has her right arm around my neck. I'm wearing a dark blue sweatshirt with a combined yellow star and white snowflake design, along with a dark purple beret. To the right behind me is her Christmas tree.

A passage from The Child in You by Stefanie Stahl:

"When a child's parents habitually quash his attempts at self-assertion, eventually, he will learn that it makes more sense to suppress his anger. The child will never learn how to manage this emotion. Just as he will never learn how to assert himself appropriately. He will develop internal belief systems, such as, 'I'm not allowed to defend myself,' 'I'm not allowed to be angry,' 'I need to fit in,' and 'I'm not allowed to have my own free will."

"Later in life—typically during adolescence—this child may start to rebel against parental expectations and the pressure to adjust. Nevertheless, he will remain trapped in the vestiges of his upbringing, as restricted by his contrarian stance as he was by years of conforming. The shadow child within this teen—and later, the adult he becomes—is shaped by having been dominated by his parents. Through this lens, this person will be quick to view others as dominant or superior, and then react by either adjusting to or rebelling against them. Not until he gets to know his shadow child—which will allow him to dismantle these deep seated influences and belief systems—will start to feel on equal footing with the people around him."

A passage from the book The Child in You by Stefanie Stahl: "They have self-esteem issues and frequently doubt that they are welcome and that their co-workers, romantic partner, boss, or new friend truly likes them. They don't really like themselves all that much, they have a range of insecurities, and they often struggle in relationships. Unable to develop basic trust, they therefore lack a sense of internal support. Instead, they hope that others will provide them with these feelings of security, protection, stability and home. They search for home with their partner, their colleagues, in their softball league, or online, only to be disappointed: other people can provide this feeling of home sporadically at best. Those who lack a home on the inside will never find one on the outside. They can't tell they'd caught in a trap."

The top third of a salad kit bag from Braga Farms

Screenshot of a Facebook post by an account called What Happens on the Holodeck Stays on the Holodeck. It displays a newspaper article about Star Trek: The Next Generation from an unknown newspaper. The article is headlined, "New Star Trek Crew Flies Into Trouble from the Trekkies."

A partially-colored page from the coloring book Enchanted Forest by Johanna Basford. It shows a squirrel holding an acorn, surrounded by other acorns, flowers, and leaves.

An npr.og screenshot of an article, showing 1) the headline, "You read that white: Pantone's 2026 Color of the Year is 'Cloud Dancer,'" 2) the article's date and time stamp, "December 4, 2025 • 3:56 PM ET," 3) the byline, "By Ivy Buck, Alina Edwards," 4) a photo of a billowing piece of white fabric, and 5) the photo's caption, "Pantone describes Cloud Dancer as 'a lofty white.'"

Cover art of the soundtrack to Star Trek: Picard season 3.

Text screenshot.

My Shipt shopper: "Everything is on the porch. I don't shop for you before then,(although I recall last year I got a little surprise when you placed an order for Wednesday before Thanksgiving), have a good Thanksgiving!"

Me: "Lol thanks, you too!"

Shipt shopper: "Thank you!"

Me: "Good memory! And I also can't believe it's been that long already."

Shipt shopper: "Yes, it has been a year since since you requested me (to be) a preferred shopper🙂….. I am fortunate that I have the long-term memory I was given. I just recall that when I started shopping for you, you placed orders on a number of Saturdays and I stated that I probably wouldn’t shop for you before Thanksgiving(that Saturday before), then I got the pleswnt surprise of the Wednesday order."