Dean Spade

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Picture of Holiday, a Black person in a pink shirt, glasses, and beige cowboy hat with a goatee and pink braids, against a dynamic blue background. Text reads, livestream conversation with Holiday Simmons Monday 2/2 - 1pm EST www.patreon.com/deanspade
Disappointment, Conflict, and Burnout in Care and Resistance Work People often experience a special kind of disappointment in resistance work. We join groups to do something that we really care about. Often, we are relieved to finally find people who see things the way we do, excited to be understood and have accompaniment and solidarity. We have high expectations for each other. And then we find out that we're all very human and imperfect. I have found that burnout is not usually just a result of being tired. Most people I've talked to who feel burned out and leave movement work, during the laset 28 years that I have been in these movements, are actually in pain because of unresolved conflict. They joined work they really cared about, something went wrong that made them feel betrayed or left out or disappointed, and that is the pain of the burnout. It wasn't just the hard work; it was the loss of trust, the feeling of being blamed or stigmatized, or not being listened to.
"Prisons are designed to keep us isolated. When we connect with our dear ones, every second is precious and the stakes are high. This added pressure means we have to strive to be as intentional as possible to make each moment count." - Endjah S. (SCI Cambridge Springs)
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A picture of me smiling next to a photo of the cover of Love in a Fucked-Up World. Text reads: Blackwell's Manchester presents...Dean Spade in conversation with Wu Tsang, Friday 3rd October at 6:30pm, blackwells.co.uk/events
Dean Spade UK Tour October 1 - Edinburgh, 7pm at Lighthouse October 2 - Glasgow, 1pm at Kinning Park Complex October 2 - Glasgow, 7pm at Listen Gallery October 3 - Manchester, 6:30pm at Blackwell's October 4 - Nottingham, 4pm at TBD October 6 - London, 6pm at UCL October 9 - London, 7pm at Pages of Hackney October 10 - London, 6pm at Birkbeck
Hot pink crumpled paper background with hand-drawn heart designs in black with text reading, "How to get Free Copies of Love in a F*cked-Up World For People in Prison"
A collection of stickers with illustations and taglines like "got a lifetime use it like a weapon baby", "smash the relationship escalator", and "dismantle the romance myth!"
A background with green pealing paint and text that reads "How to Support Trans People Now: Write to a Prisoner" with a small graphic of a envelope
Text reads: Lesson 1: To have secure and healthy romantic relationships, we have to throw out romance myth scripts. Romance myths go something like this: romantic relationships are the most important relationships in our lives; they are the place were we become complete, satisfied, loved, and safe; real romance is eternal and exclusive; true love is easy, natural, and unchanging. These cultural scripts are fed to us from an early age. They show up in the media we consume, are passed down to us from our parents' and grandparents'...
Green, pink, and blue circles against a beige paper-texture background. Text reads online, Love in a F*cke Up World Reading Group Meet Up, September 21 at 2pm EST