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šŸ“NC | 31 | He/They Turns out I do need therapy. Sorry women on the internet. A soft reset. Letā€™s see where this run takes me, shall we

Tell: hey waiting for ur reply Answer: What platform? Here? I don't have any DMs...
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Tell: advice on handling having a bad day? Answer: Sleep and try again tomorrow.
Tell: What can i do if two boys are into me but i like them both alot Answer: You gotta make a decision or risk losing your chance (and possibly the friendship) with both of them.
Tell: Do you have rules about who your partner can hang out with? Answer: No, and anyone who does is a massive red flag. There's an argument to be made for not wanting them to hang out (at least alone) with someone they know has feelings for them, but you should really be able to trust your partner to set clear and strong boundaries themselves. If you feel like you need to set any rules that control your partner's freedoms and choice (of course outside of consensual kink culture), maybe you should rethink the relationship.
Tell: I'm so jealous of you Answer: I literally have no idea why
Tell: hey, what u want for ur birthday? Answer: To go back in time about... 7-8 years
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Tell: so l'm kinda into open relationships, but would u still go out with me? Answer: I don't think I could do an open relationship. I could do FWB with the understanding we can see other people. I'm not a jealous person as long as I know your love and affection is directed towards me alone. As long as I know I am your person, I will trust you with every part of myself. Until you give me a reason not to (and I won't go looking just to find a reason). When other people get involved... I've had a relationship end just because my part said they were becoming interested in someone else (partly to be honest with me and partly to make me fight and reaffirm my love for them). It has a lot to do with my mental health, but also, I don't want to have to fight for your love and attention. I can't enjoy it if I have to compete. It's why I don't play competitive video games.
Tell: sum up your school experience with one sentence Answer: I didn't sleep, and then it was over.
Tell: i'm scared to be honest because i know what the answer is Answer: I think those are the times you should be honest the most. If it's something that negatively affects you, the longer you ignore it the more it will eat away at youā€” ultimately resulting in the outcome you don't want anyway. If it negatively affects someone else, the more you ignore it the more resentful you will become. It also leads the person on and makes the eventual revelation that much more devastating. Quick like a bandaid: it stings for a second, but it goes away fast and the healing can begin. On a more positive note, you could be wrong, and the self-doubt you've been dwelling on is all for nothing.
Tell: is traveling alone something you would do? Answer: I've done it a few times. The first time I traveled alone, I was 16. 1 drove four-ish hours across the state to see my middle school best friend who had moved away. I was a lot more independent before I moved out of my parent's house; which is weird because it usually goes the other way.
Tell: any experience with long distance love? Answer: Not love, but l've had some short long-distance relationships via the interwebs. I don't think I could do an actual relationship.
Tell: how do you deal with bac thoughts or emotions? Answer: Well for starters, I saw a doctor who prescribed me an antidepressant (and then a second antidepressant a little later). Then I started therapy. Outside of those two things, I usually listen to sad music. For whatever reason, listening to sad music when I'm sad makes me feel better. Also, listening to heavy, angry music when I'm angry calms me down. I don't know what it is.
Tell: you hear a man with a high voice, whatcha thinkin? Answer: Lucky son of a bitch :/ "I wish I had a better voice that sang some better words"
Tell: have u been outside today? Answer: Yes, if you count the total 10-ish minutes I spent walking from my house to my car, my car into work, work to my car, and car into my house today.
Tell: do you memorize friends' bdays or rely on insta reminders Answer: I memorize them. I helped my best friend out one time by having his girlfriend's birthday memorized (granted, he knew her birthday he just didn't know what day of the month that particular day was). Ironically, today was one of my managers' birthday. No one in the office knew (not even the other manager). We only found out because the VP wished him a happy birthday during a meeting.
Tell: if ur partner wanted matching tattoos, would u be down for that? Answer: Y'absolutely. My ex and I were going to get matching tattoos. Outside of the song as a whole, we really liked the part in the chorus of Sober by Blink-182 "I'm a dandelion, you're a four-leaf clover". Obviously I would get the dandelion and she would have gotten the four-leaf clover. She was also really good at finding four-leaf clovers.
Tell: ā€¢ true or false? u have been in a situationship and loved it Answer: I guess false? I haven't really been in a situationship. Although looking back I guess it kinda was? No, it probably definitely was. Not seeing it like that, I didn't have many feelings about it. Thinking about it now, I don't think I liked it. At least, if I could do it over again I would handle the situation differently.
Tell: oversized hoodie or oversized t-shirt? Answer: For me? Probably oversized hoodie. On a partner? There's little sexier/hotter/prettier/cuter than an oversized t-shirt and panties (or no panties if you're about to woohoo it up ).
Tell: what's the best time to give flowers to someone? Answer: All the time. Show them you care for them / love them / are thinking of them / just to be nice / to cheer them up... there's really no reason you shouldn't be giving someone flowers every day. Maybe the money aspect of it, but flowers grow in the wild and it's the though that really counts.
Tell: how quick can u trust someone new Answer: I'm quick to be friendly but slow to trust. I'm also slow to open up which may figure in to that.