Lovette 🏳️‍🌈

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Published Author || 9x Award Winning Lecturer || Public Speaker || AuDHD || 🇬🇲🇸🇪🇳🇬🇨🇮 || 📧Lovette@Lovettejallow.com

Call-Out Culture Has a Place. Most People Just Don't Know Where. The popular take is that call-out culture is toxic. The real problem is that most people confuse performance with strategy and critique with contribution. BY LOVETTE JALLOW ART BY CHRISTIAN ALLISON
Lovette Jallow speaks on parents discovering their own neurodivergence through their children’s diagnoses.
Lovette Jallow speaks on autism and heritability percentage
Pink background with rose image header reading “The Rose Garden 2026.” Text outlines full day event including industry professionals panel on support systems, parents panel on family adaptation, siblings panel on underrepresented perspectives, special guests and refreshments. Venue: The Arding Rooms Private Members Club, Clapham Junction, 12pm-6pm.
Pink and green geometric design with pink roses. Text reads: “The Eden-Rose Project presents The Rose Garden 2026. Panels with industry professionals, siblings panel, parents panel, raffle, special guests, refreshments. Saturday 7th March 2026, The Arding Rooms Private Members Club, Clapham Junction, 12pm-6pm.
Slide 1 of Lovette Jallow’s carousel with artwork by Alabi Mayowa (@shuta.bug). Text reads: “Why People Promise and Don’t Deliver. The promise feels good immediately. The follow-through feels boring later.” Explains dopamine-driven generosity, false accountability, and social reputation behaviors.
Davina Campbell: The Freelancer Who Weaponized Neurodivergence to Justify Taking Payment Without Delivering Services Lovette Jallow©
Audio of When Childhood Wounds Drive Adult Relationships How unhealed trauma, whiteness, and emotional displacement keep people recreating the same unsafe spaces they claim to escape. The Lovette Jallow Perspective
When Childhood Wounds Drive Adult Relationships How unhealed trauma, whiteness, and emotional displacement keep people recreating the same unsafe spaces they claim to escape. The Lovette Jallow Perspective
Lovette @lovettejallow • 25/02/2024 Fellow autistics I finally figured it out. When people tweet on here asking why there are so many autistics around these days. What they want to know is... hear me out...graphic details of our parents having *whispers intercourse. Because that IS how we are created amirite?
Why Parents Discover Their Own Autism or ADHD Through Their Child's Diagnosis The Lovette Jallow Perspective
When Equality Is a Myth Sweden's Disability Laws Leave Autistic and Disabled People to Collapse The Lovette Jallow Perspective
"Clinically, perimenopause is described through symptoms like hot flashes, irregular cycles, night sweats, disrupted sleep, and mood swings. But what isn't named often enough is how these changes strip away the very reserves women once relied on to mask their neurodivergence." Lovette Jallow Why So Many Neurodivergent Women Discover ADHD and Autism During Perimenopause LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
Why So Many Neurodivergent Women Discover ADHD and Autism During Perimenopause Perimenopause unmasks ADHD and autism in women, leaving many misdiagnosed and unsupported. LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
Video of Lovette Jallow delivering a webinar on neurodivergence and workplace culture. She explains how small talk is not neutral but coded and political, often punishing autistic and ADHD professionals, and demonstrates the “Clarify → Boundary → Exit” script as ethical communication.
Why CBT Fails So Many Autistic People What happens when therapy treats your trauma like a math problem, and your brain like a bad equation? LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
"They don't land as harmless curiosity. Each one opens a dozen loops in the mind: How much truth is allowed? Do they want detail or just "fine"? Will honesty make them uncomfortable, or will vagueness be read as rude?" Lovette Jallow Why Small Talk Exhausts Autistic and ADHD People LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
Why Small Talk Exhausts Autistic and ADHD People Vagueness isn't harmless it's often a tool for control, extraction, and gaslighting towards neurodivergent persons. LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSIACK.COM
Suma Jabarr: The Matriarchal Marriage Beyond Romance Beyond Friendship In Gambia, women call their closest confidants "suma jabarr" (my wife) - not as euphemism but as structural recognition of their bond. Shared Responsibility These women raise each other's children, protect inheritances, and hold power together in ways that transcend romantic partnerships. Covenant, Not Ceremony "It means I will name you in rooms where you are not present. I will advocate for your children like they came from my own womb."
How Black Matriarchies defined Polyamory as Structure, Not Sexuality Friendship is polyamory as legacy through structured care, West African kinship, and neurodivergent safety that LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
"But shame without tangible action is self-indulgence. It centers white feelings, conveniently ignoring what those feelings were supposed to transform." Lovette Jallow When Anti-Racism Becomes Degradation Kink for White People LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
"It's a carefully negotiated scene where the submissive decides exactly how far they will go, what limits exist, and precisely when it ends. In kink, the submissive holds the safe word. They are never truly powerless." Lovette Jallow When Anti-Racism Becomes Degradation Kink for White People LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
When Anti- Racism Becomes Degradation Kink for White People How White Guilt Turns Anti-Racism Into Performance Without Change LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
Video of Lovette Jallow’s substack When White People Use Autism to Justify Their Racism How whiteness weaponizes neurodivergence to avoid responsibility, silence Black autistic voices, and uphold racial double standards. LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
"This is why neurodivergence cannot be discussed without talking about whiteness. Lovette Jallow When White People Use Autism to Justify Their Racism LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
When White People Use Autism to Justify Their Racism How whiteness weaponizes neurodivergence to avoid responsibility, silence Black autistic voices, and uphold racial double standards. LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
Lbee Health Exposed: Fraudulent Autism and ADHD Assessments Uncovered Victim Testimonies, Investigation, and How Elle Two Exploited Neurodivergent Communities
The Mediator's Role in Family and Community "Repair was a skill I inherited, but it was never supposed to be mine to hold alone."
"Real community repair needs truth, not performance. It sometimes needs objective mediation from people invested in everyone's dignity, even if they take sides. That was the role of our elders. To ensure the one who caused harm understood, with grace, and corrected." Lovette Jallow Why We Don't Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
Why We Don't SHOP Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore On conflict, avoidance, and the lost skill of community repair LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM
"That's what abusers and the systems protecting them want: For you to be so busy labeling people, you forget to name the power structures that made harm possible." Lovette Jallow What If "Narcissistic Abuse" Is Just... Abuse? LOVETTEJALLOW.SUBSTACK.COM