Rory

@roryreckons.bsky.social

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ADHD | Autistic Self-Advocate | ICF ADHD/Autism Coach. Nonbinary. They/he. 🏳️‍🌈Bi/pan. Married. Header is art by @kayas-kosmos.bsky.social

Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults A guide for the anxious, uniquely wired and easily distracted By Caroline Maguire, PCC, MEd
In fact, he said, his own research showed that autistic people tend to differ in cognitive empathy (interpreting facial expressions and language) but not affective empathy (the internal response to others’ feelings). “Once they know that someone is upset, it upsets them and they want to do something about it,” he said. “There’s a kind of myth that autistic people lack empathy.”
A four-circle Venn diagram illustrating the Japanese concept of Ikigai. The circles are labeled: What you love (top, teal), What the world needs (right, pink), What you can be paid for (bottom, orange), and What you are good at (left, yellow). Their overlaps are labeled Passion (love + good at), Mission (love + world needs), Profession (good at + paid for), and Vocation (world needs + paid for). At the center, where all four circles overlap, is the word "Ikigai", representing the intersection of passion, mission, profession, and vocation.
A mince meat pie and a V energy drink.
Luxon says party closing in on 5% 'wants to make every New Zealander a beneficiary'
Reaction meme: happy after receiving a written compliment, then disappointed after noticing an AI telltale (“negative parallelism”) that reveals the compliment was likely AI-generated.
Four Thousand Weeks. Oliver Burkeman
A black-and-white worksheet titled “CAN YOU FOLLOW DIRECTIONS?” with the subtitle, “This is a timed test—you have 3 minutes only!” Below is a numbered list of 23 instructions. The instructions tell the reader to do various tasks such as writing their name, calling out phrases, drawing shapes, counting backward, solving math problems, punching holes in the paper, and underlining numbers. The final instruction (#23) reveals the trick: after reading everything carefully, the reader should do only instructions 1 and 2 (read everything carefully and put their name in the upper right-hand corner). The worksheet is a common classroom exercise designed to test whether people read all directions before starting.
Hilary Clinton with Henry Kissinger
An educational diagram illustrating cognitive restructuring in cognitive behavioral therapy. The top row is labeled **“Maladaptive pattern:”** and shows a sequence of three boxes connected by arrows: 1. “My boss yelled at me.” 2. “I’m worthless.” 3. “Depression.” The bottom row is labeled **“After cognitive restructuring:”** and shows a revised sequence: 1. “My boss yelled at me.” 2. “My boss was having a bad day.” 3. “No depression.” The diagram demonstrates how changing an interpretation of an event can lead to a different emotional outcome.
A character is shown as a disheveled man wearing a black shirt labeled "Sickos", grinning through a window and saying, "Yes… Ha ha ha… Yes!"
creenshot of a social media post by Rua M. Williams (@FractalEcho). The post reads: “This is not an email I ever expected to receive or send.” Below is a screenshot of an email exchange. The first message says: “The AI design of your email is clever, but significantly lacks warmth. Would it be possible to be contacted by a human being moving forward instead of AI? Many thanks,” The reply underneath says: “It's not an AI. I'm just Autistic. See you next Friday. Sent from Proton Mail mobile”
1. I have difficulty controlling my thoughts 2. I find it hard to switch my thoughts off 3. I have two or more different thoughts going on at the same time 4. My thoughts are disorganised and ‘all over the place’ 5. My thoughts are ‘on the go’ all the time 6. ᵃ Because my mind is ‘on the go’ at bedtime, I have difficulty falling off to sleep 7. I experience ceaseless mental activity 8. I find it difficult to think about one thing without another thought entering my mind 9. I find my thoughts are distracting and prevent me from focusing on what I am doing 10. ᵃ I try to distract myself from my thoughts by doing something else or listening to music 11. I have difficulty slowing my thoughts down and focusing on one thing at a time 12. I find it difficult to think clearly, as if my mind is in a fog 13. I find myself flitting back and forth between different thoughts 14. ᵃ I use alcohol or other drugs to slow down my thoughts and stop constant ‘mental chatter’ 15. I can only focus my thoughts on one thing at a time with considerable effort
Kiki, a chocolate coloured tonkinese cat, with her paws around Nova, a lilac (white) tonkinese kitten together on a blue plush blanket. They are both asleep.
A top-down schematic diagram of a twin-engine bomber airplane from World War II, illustrating the concept of survivorship bias. The outline of the aircraft is drawn in black on a white background, with numerous bright red dots scattered across specific sections. These red dots, representing hypothetical bullet holes or damage locations on returning aircraft, are heavily clustered along the wingtips, the outer edges of the wings, the rear stabilizers, and the middle section of the fuselage. Notably, the engines, the cockpit, and the tail section are completely free of red dots, implying that planes struck in those vital areas did not survive to be analyzed.
manage complex programs at Google. At home, I couldn't get my husband to check a shared calendar. My husband and I share the load. But he refuses to be in the WhatsApp groups. He doesn't want the weekly logistics sync I've been proposing for years. He doesn't want to know about the piano lesson if he's not the one taking her. As far as he's concerned, if it's not his responsibility, it doesn't exist. For years I worked around this. Mid-day calls to remind him about pickups. Messages to confirm who's doing what. The mental load of making sure nothing fell through the cracks was entirely mine. A few weeks ago I stopped fighting his system and built around it instead. He's a pull person in a push world. He doesn't want information delivered to him; he wants to ask for it when he needs it. So I built him a bot on WhatsApp - his channel, his timing, his questions - that reads straight from our existing shared calendar. "Am I picking up today?" Yes, at 4. "When can I leave early this week?" Tuesday and Thursday. "Is there a piano lesson this week?" No. That last one is my favorite. There is a piano lesson. But he's not responsible for it. So as far as the bot is concerned - it doesn't exist. Not a single dropped ball. More time to talk about the kids instead of their schedules. I spent years trying to get him to use my system. Took me one week to build one he actually uses.
A large shaggy dog with black, gray, and cream fur lies in a cushioned pet bed lined with a bright blue blanket. Curled up against the dog's side are two sleeping cats, one dark brown and one cream-colored. The bed sits on a gray tiled floor in a living room, next to a wooden coffee table. The dog is awake and looking off to the right while the cats sleep peacefully, all three sharing the same bed.
Several limitations hamper the findings of this study. First, our study design was essentially non-experimental and cross-sectional; although mediation analysis was used, causal relationships between the variables cannot be warranted. Second, we did not have an explicit measure of ToM/perspective taking or social cognition, which would help relate the functional connectivity differences with behavioral data. Third, our sample size did not allow us to examine gender-related differences to the experience of shame and guilt. Fourth, all the participants in the study were neurotypical. Future studies are encouraged to replicate these findings by including individuals diagnosed with autism, so that the full spectrum of autistic traits can be accounted for when examining its association with negative SCEs.
Be cautious about unnecessarily escalating allegations of bullying. No-one approves of bullying behaviour, but a certain amount of teasing and unfriendliness does occur across all age-groups. Children need to learn how to run their own relationships and cope with ups and downs in friendships. Too much adult intervention, or over-reaction, can blow trivial incidents out of proportion and stifle the development of judgment and problem-solving skills. Therefore, it may be best to consider low-level and informal responses to bullying before escalating matters. However, any serious incidents of bullying should be immediately escalated.
What can you do if you are being bullied? • Tell someone; a teacher, a School Counsellor, a parent/legal guardian and/or a trusted adult. Once someone knows about what is occurring they can help you with the situation • Walk away. Sometimes it makes good sense to simply ignore a bully • If possible, try to defuse the situation with humour; even a bully can find a joke disarming • Try being assertive- “Get a life. Leave me alone” • Make friends and spend time together with these friends in the School grounds. Having a friend is an effective protective factor. Or, if you like to be alone by nature, find School activities that allow you to be safe and alone, like the library or computers labs
Jocelyn J. Fitzgerald MD @jjfitzgeraldMD In med school, I took an elective called "Stress", foolishly thinking I was going to learn about meditation and yoga. Instead the professor spent 6 weeks proving that being poor or a minority literally destroys your health on a molecular level, and I think about that every day. 5:02 AM · May 11, 2020
Kiki a chocolate tonkinese sitting on top of a grey cat tree, and nova her half sister a lilac tonkinese with torti stripes across her legs and a cute grey nose staring at the camera.
"Would you rather see higher taxes or more spending cuts in New Zealand?"
An illustration of the classic trolley problem meme with a twist. A red trolley is moving down a track that splits into two paths. The main track continues straight and is completely empty. The side track, which requires pulling a lever to divert the trolley, has a group of stick figures in suits standing on it under a large sign that reads "100 BILLIONAIRES." A person stands next to the lever looking conflicted under the text, "Do you pull the lever?"
A line graph titled "The Strategic Advantage of 'Spiky' Productivity" contrasts two work styles on an Output versus Time axis. A straight, horizontal grey line labeled "Linear Productivity (Neurotypical)" represents a consistent level of output over time. In contrast, a blue, wavy line with high peaks and deep troughs illustrates "Spiky" productivity. The peaks are labeled "Breakthrough Innovation / Hyperfocus," while the lower sections dip well below the linear baseline. A text box at the bottom explains the concept: "Stop trying to force a flat line. ADHD output is a heartbeat. If you accommodate the recovery troughs, you earn exclusive access to the peaks: unparalleled creative problem-solving and rapid architectural breakthroughs."
The government wants to use AI to improve the public service. We asked AI what it would do
hind or doe or cow Adult female deer. These terms are used interchangeably, depending on the species of deer.
A movie poster for her, featuring Joaquin Phoenix with a moustache and piercing gaze staring directly toward the camera.
Thousands of public servants to lose jobs, potentially saving government over a billion dollars
The price is 3,313.00 and the it is fully subsidised.
Blown up image of a globe emoji centred over south east asia. An NZ like blob exists on the bottom right of Australia
Palantir CEO says AI 'will destroy' humanities jobs but there will be 'more than enough jobs' for people with vocational training.
The image presents a line graph titled "Levels of stress mediators" on the y-axis and "Time" on the x-axis, illustrating the physiological transition from homeostasis to allostatic load due to chronic stress. A single, oscillating red line represents the levels of stress mediators over time. At the beginning of the timeline, the line fluctuates around a lower dotted horizontal line labeled "Set point for homeostasis." Red upward arrows indicate "Allostasis," or the body’s active adaptation to stress stimuli, while blue downward arrows indicate "Homeostatic recovery," showing the levels returning toward the original baseline. As the timeline progresses, "Chronically repeated stress stimuli" are indicated by thick red arrows along the x-axis. The oscillating line begins to trend significantly upward, failing to return to the original homeostatic baseline. This cumulative shift leads to a higher dotted horizontal line labeled "New (altered) set point." The vertical gap between the original homeostatic set point and the new altered set point is marked with a large double-headed red arrow and labeled "Allostatic load." This visualizes the physiological "wear and tear" that occurs when the body's stress response systems are forced to operate at a perpetually higher level to maintain stability.
Jake the Dog from Finn and Jake saying: "Dude, sucking at something is the first step towards being sort of good at something."
A road closed sign on a street.
In the top panel, a female doctor wearing scrubs and a stethoscope looks toward her male colleague, asking, "Remind me again why we picked this specialty?" In the bottom panel, the male doctor, also in scrubs, looks back at her and answers, "Because we all have ADHD, and anything else would be boring as hell."
Screenshot of a verified Facebook post by Judith Collins reading, “Lovely to be able to catch up with my friend Secretary for Homeland Security Kristi Noem where topics included people smugglers, transnational crime, and the excellent work of the US Coastguard in the Pacific.”
A New Zealand National Party Post that says: Kiwis can now get ADHD treatment through their GP or nurse practitioner, no specialist needed.
Steam Year in Review comparison screen titled ‘How You Compare.’ Three horizontal bar charts compare the user to the Steam community: ‘You unlocked 840 achievements’ (Steam median 11), ‘You played 65 games’ (Steam median 4), and ‘Your longest streak was 82 days’ (Steam median 6). Each bar extends far beyond the median marker, indicating much higher activity than average.”
a disheveled man wearing a black shirt labeled "Sickos", grinning through a window and saying, "Yes… Ha ha ha… Yes!"
A map of the Brynderwyns showing the existing state highway and the land around it that has been purchased.
Word cloud visualization for 2025 showing your 50 most-used words, sized by frequency. Top 10: "adhd" (168×), "autistic" (92×), "without" (79×), "shit" (73×), "seems" (73×), "game" (71×), "based" (71×), "those" (67×), "autism" (65×), "understand" (64×) (from Anisota's Annual Bluesky Harvest)
Severe Thunderstorm Warning Area: Rodney, Kaipara and Whangarei Forecast: At 02:00 pm, MetService weather radar detected severe thunderstorms near WHANGAREI, WAIOTIRA, TAIPUHA, PORTLAND, MAUNGAKARAMEA and WAIKIEKIE. These severe thunderstorms are moving towards the southeast, and are expected to lie near KAIWAKA, MANGAWHAI, BRYNDERWYN and TE ARAI at 02:30 pm and near OMAHA, LEIGH and OUTER HAURAKI GULF at 03:00 pm. These thunderstorms are expected to be accompanied by torrential rain, damaging wind gusts and hail. Impact: Torrential rain can cause surface and/or flash flooding about streams, gullies and urban areas, and make driving conditions extremely hazardous. Very strong wind gusts can break branches from trees, damage roofing, and make driving hazardous especially for high-sided vehicles and motorcycles. Hail can cause damage to crops, orchards and vines and may make driving conditions hazardous. Issued: 2:12pm Wed 3 Dec Next update: 3:00pm Wed 3 Dec
Rain going horizontally with high wind
Panel 1 Two stick-figure characters are standing together. The one in the green shirt points off-panel and says: "CHECK IT OUT! HERE COMES PHIL PHILBERTSON, THE FIRST ETHICAL BILLIONAIRE!" Panel 2 A third character, Phil Philbertson, wearing a suit jacket, appears and waves, saying: "HELLO, FOLKS!" Panel 3 The scene focuses on Philbertson. He has brought a gun up to his head, positioned near his temple, and is looking straight ahead with a neutral expression. Panel 4 The scene cuts back to the original two characters. They are now splattered with blood and what appears to be brain matter. Their expressions are still fairly neutral, and the character in the green shirt says: "WHAT A LEGEND!"
“Puberty blocker legislation is not based on politics,” he said, in a statement. Although, the “puberty blocker” ban was not primary “legislation”. Instead of putting it to a vote in Parliament, the ban was enacted as an order in council, following a directive from ministers. Peters said that order was “based on letting kids be kids and stopping turning our society into a plaything for extremist lefty losers”.
A picture of a giant crab labelled “autism parents (trademark)” shooting lasers at a smaller crab labelled “the slightest bit of autistic joy”, the smaller crab is also exploding as a result.
"I want you to act as if the house is on fire, because it is." - Greta Thunberg
Game of the Year - Clair Obscur: Expedition 33
A tweet by @HeraLindsayBird The tweet text reads, “godDAMN this stupid milkloving piece of shit dumbass mean spirited sale at briscoes racist sexist 40% off deck furniture piss country.” The timestamp at the bottom shows “9/08/17, 5:39 PM.”
A compulsory impairment test (CIT) is undertaken by a police officer to determine whether a driver is impaired or not. It includes the officer looking at your eyes, asking you to walk and turn, and getting you to balance on one leg.
Will my ADHD medication test positive? There are some concerns that amphetamine-based medication used to treat ADHD, such as dexamfetamine and lisdexamfetamine, could be detected by roadside testing devices screening for methamphetamine. We have raised this issue with Police. As we do not yet know the testing technology that will be used at the roadside, we are unable to say whether these medications will test positive or not. Under the law, the Minister needs to publish details about the technology that will be used before testing is rolled out. Should I carry my prescription with me? At the moment you can only apply for a medical defence via the Police website and only after an infringement offence notice has been issued. The medical defence does not apply immediately at the roadside. This means that if you give two positive saliva tests at the roadside you will be barred from driving for 12 hours, regardless of whether you have a prescription or not.
comparing three Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois Silver PPO health insurance plans. The monthly premiums are: $3655.45 for Plan 801; $3810.07 for Plan Standard - Select Rx Copays; and $3779.88 for Plan 203. The image also shows their deductibles, OOP maxes, and co-pays.
The image is a movie poster for the film Outbreak. The poster features close-up portraits of the three main stars: Dustin Hoffman at the top, Rene Russo in the middle, and Morgan Freeman at the bottom. To the right, next to the actors' faces, is a small, menacing image of a monkey's face mid-snarl, and a tagline in red text that reads: "This animal carries a deadly virus... and the greatest medical crisis in the world is about to happen." The movie title, OUTBREAK, is prominently displayed in large, yellow capital letters across the center, with the subtitle "Try to remain calm." beneath it. The background is a deep, dramatic red.
A meme showing a skeleton lifting weights with the following text layered over it: “Microsoft is a corporation that turns” followed by news headlines “Microsoft CEO claims 30% of its new code is written by AI,” into… “Windows 11 update breaks localhost, prompting mass uninstall workaround.” The meme humorously suggests that Microsoft’s reliance on AI coding leads to software issues.
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Child marriage, defined by the United Nations as a marriage in which at least one party is under 18 years of age occurs legally in the United States. The U.S. is the only UN member state that has not yet ratified the Convention on the Rights of the Child. Its Committee on the Rights of the Child "reaffirms that the minimum age limit should be 18 years for marriage." Within the United States, each state and territory as well as Washington, D.C. set the marriage age in its jurisdiction. As of June 2025, four states have no statutory minimum age when all exemptions are taken into account. These states are California, Mississippi, New Mexico, and Oklahoma.